About the Book
Mending Me is the name I used when I began talking about what was happening in my marriage 6 days after my ex-husband moved out. After TikTok banned my account the first time, for “hate speech against a protected class” (men, presumably), I made a new account, “Always Mending” and a website to go with it. I began my work under that name but still used the name Mending Me as my account was reinstated and banned a few more times.
This book is the story of my healing from an abusive marriage, deconstructing my Christian faith, my beliefs around sex, and ultimately finding love again. I’ll take readers through those early days on TikTok and what it felt like to be blindsided by the first viral video, interacting with women who were just like me, and the angry men who reported my content for “hate speech” against them. I said things like, “sex is not a need” and “withholding is sex a human right” and this turned their world upside down.
I talk about sexual coercion in marriage, or as I call it, Marital Coercion. It’s sexual coercion, but with the added complication of a long term commitment between two people who once deeply loved one another. My goal is to help victims and their spouses find their worth outside the bedroom, and love within themselves before seeking it in each other.
I nearly deleted my account a dozen times the first year, but messages of support were flooding in consistently, keeping me front and center.
Young Lady, You have opened something huge here, its become phenomenal. wish you were around in my youth. No one has touched this subject EVER!!
Every day I woke up ready to share more of myself and what I was learning. I was compelled in a way I didn’t understand yet, but would soon learn was a spiritual calling. I was called to speak. And now to write. Follow along with me here as I put this book together just as publicly as I did on TikTok, but with the added paywall. I’ve never asked for monetary reimbursement until now, and I so appreciate your support as I continued to pour out my heart to the world. Thank you for hearing me and helping other women like me feel heard.
About the Author
Previously a stay-at-home mom for 20 years, I now write and create content for social media. It’s mostly a public journal with a focus on awakening the world to the idea that everything we do is coming from either love or fear. I take people through everything I’m learning about my internal world and the world around me. People who resonate with the things I say can point to similarities in themselves and hopefully heal themselves right along with me.
I’m also a mom to teenage twins and an adult kiddo, and all three continue to challenge me to be a better mom than I was before. They keep me informed about the world from their perspective. If you have young people in your life, listen to them! They have insight into so many things in ways I would never consider on my own. I have a day job in my spare time, but it’s only to keep the lights on.
I also write poetry and self-published a book in 2024 called Love Makes Life Listen after a message came to me in the night. And I’m a “baby psychic” just sort of getting my bearings after being dormant most of my life. We all have a little bit of psychic in us and I talk about this as well, as I develop these skills. You’d be surprised just how much of your internal world is a psychic occurrence, but you’ve been told it’s nothing (think déjà vu).
To read more, see my website.
What People Are Saying
You empower me. Keep talking. I need to hear it over and over and over.
Young Lady, You have opened something huge here, its become phenomenal. wish you were around in my youth. No one has touched this subject EVER!!
You came across my fy page one day and as I listened to your soft, kind voice, I cried until I couldn't anymore. You encouraged me to see family victim services. I can now, with the help from your videos, properly explain what I have been living with for almost 10 years.
I wish I could show you how much this means to me, but I think you already know. Now I just need the strength to get him out of my home so I can heal.
Thank you so so much
i enjoy the way you deliver much, if not all, of your content. makes me think in a non-triggering way
I just wanted to say that you are inspirational.
I have taken some of your comments to my therapist to open more conversation. Coercion has been happening to me throughout my life. It started with abuse and followed me through THREE marriages. I have felt broken, like something is wrong with me, I mean a “normal” woman wants and enjoys sex, so I must be broken. You opened my eyes! You have helped me so much and now I can work on this in my therapy. Thank you! Thank you for sharing your pain so others can learn. You. Are. Amazing.
